The Dering family occupied the local manor house (known as Surrenden Dering) in Pluckley from the middle ages and took a leading part in the community’s administration for hundreds of years.
Surrenden Dering is haunted by ‘The White Lady’ - a former Lady Dering who was apparently so beautiful that upon her death her husband had her embalmed and encased in four coffins (three of lead and an outer one of oak) so that he could continue to look upon her for the rest of his days. She was dressed in her best gown and a red rose was placed at her bosom. However, denying her a decent and prompt burial caused her restless spirit to protest and she has remained with the building (now a ruin) ever since.
In 1952, Surrenden Dering was burnt down in a mysterious fire and only parts of it remain today.
The name of DEERING, DEARING, or DERING is derived from the ancient Saxon baptismal name of Dering and was first taken as a patronymic by the son or sons of one so called. It is found in ancient English and early American records in the various forms of Deryng, Derynge, Deearinge, Deearing , Dearinge, Deeringe, Deringe, Deerieng, Deeryn, During, Dareing, Duryng, Derringe, Daring, Deringer, Derringer, Derring, Diering, Diring, Diringe, Duaringe, Duehring, Duering, Dyring, Dyringe, Dyrryng, Dyryng, Dyrring, Dearing , Dering, Deering , and others, of which the last three spellings are still frequently used.
Seated at early dates in the English Counties of Kent, York, Dorset, Devon, Hampshire, Essex, Sussex, and Hertford, as well as In the city and vicinity of London, the families bearing this name were, on the whole, of the landed gentry and nobility.
The family, like Its name, is of Saxon origin and traces its descent from Ethelward, King of Diera, whose father, Oswald, was slain in the year 642 A.D. Ethelward, then only four years of age, was deprived of his heritage by his uncle, Osway, and was taken by friends Into Kent. His descendants were called Dierans, having come from that country.
Diering Miles, a descendant of Ethelward, was witness to a deed in County Kent in the year 880. In the early eleventh century one Dering filius (son of) Syrodi was the representative of this line. He was the father of a son named Byred, who was the father of Leofget, who, upon the death of William the Noman I took up arms in behalf of Duke Robert. With the loss of this cause, he retired to Nomandy, where he left two sons, Nomanus or Koman and Robert Dering. The first of these married Matilda, sister and heir of William de Ipes, Earl of Kent, and had issue by her of Deringus or Dering de Morinis, who married Elveva de Raytib and was the father of Deringue Fitz (son of) Dering, the first of the family to bear the surname.
Deringus Fitz Dering was the father of a son named Wymund, who possessed lands at Famingham, County Kent. He was the father of Richard, who left issue by his wife, Claricia Shlllinghelde, of a son named Peter Dering or Deering. This Peter held lands in Kent, Essex, and Leicester. By his wife Agnes, daughter of Ralph de Badlesmere, he had a son named Richard, whose son, Sir John, died in 1364. Sir John was the father of Sir Richard De(e)ring, Lieutenant of Dover Castle in the reign of King Richard the Second. Sir Richard married Joan, sister of Sir Arnold St, Leger, and had issue by her of John (see photo above), who married Christian, daughter of John Haut, and died in 1425, leaving, among others, a son named Richard, who resided at Surenden, County Kent. He was twice married, first to a Miss Bertyn and later to Agnes Eyton, of Shropshire.
By his second wife, Richard left four sons, John, Richard, James, and William. John Dering or Deering, eldest son of Richard and Agnes, possessed the lands then called Surenden-Dering in Kent. He died in 1517, leaving Issue by his wife, Julian Darrell, of Nicholas and Richard, of whom the first married Alicia, daughter of William Betenham, and left issue by her of an only son, named John, who married Margaret, daughter of John Brent, and was the father of Richard, Anthony, Edward, John, and Christopher. Of these, Richard died in 1612, aged eighty-two, and left issue by his wife Margaret, daughter of William Twysden, of five sons, of whom the eldest was Sir Anthony Dering, of Surenden. By his first wife, Mary, daughter of Sir Henry Goring, Sir Anthony had only female issue; but his second wife, Frances, daughter of Sir Robert Bell, gave him six sons, as well as two daughters. The oldest son was Sir Edward Dering, who was created a Baronet in 1626. Sir Edward first married Elizabeth, daughter of Sir Nicholas Tufton, who gave him a son named Anthony. His second wife, Anne, daughter of Sir John Ashbumham., gave him a son named Edward, who succeeded his father (Anthony having died at fourteen years of age); and his third wife, Unton, daughter of Sir Ralph Gibbes, left two sons, Henry and another Edward, commonly called "Red Ned",, who made his home at London, but died without issue. Sir Edward, eldest surviving son of Sir Edward, the first Baronet, married Mary, daughter of Daniel Harvey, and died in 1684, leaving Issue of Sir Edward, Charles, Daniel, John, and several daughters.
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