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Terri Turner / 5,360 items

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Yes I broke my wrist playing footy with my 13 year old nephew up in the hills and found myself in the local country hospital getting x-rays and plaster cast. Yes I should know better being a sixty year old. And yes my life has turned into a slow motion picture show that I am taking the lead role in. But while I was waiting around to be picked up from said country hospital I observed and heard something very remarkable indeed.
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Lives curved balls are very testing and very hard to deal with but there is always a bright side if we just stop long enough feeling sorry for ourselves and listen to what is going on around us.
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As I sat reading in the foyer a young aboriginal couple came in with two young children. These children were about 3-4 years of age and the little boy was very active running everywhere. This young lad was full of joy and exploring the world around him with vigor. Yes he was a kinaesthetic learner and a very bright little chap that had figured out if he approached the glass automatic doors they would open and if he stood just in the place where the doors would close he could jump back just in time so the doors would not slam into him.
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The little sister, being a visual learner sat in her seat just watching and enjoying the scene being played out in front of her and she too was filled with joy watching her energetic adventurous little brother.
The mother of these two little souls lovingly and gently tried to distract the young boy away from his explorations with the door but he would return back to the door challenge every time mums distraction no longer worked.
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The whole time this young chap was seeking out this door challenge there were many people either very pregnant women or elderly with all manner of disabilities coming and going through this same automatic door.
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After the mothers attempts to distract him had all failed she got serious and spoke to the boy in a firm voice and directed him to stop what he was doing as the security camera was watching him and the boss people of the hospital would come and arrest him and put him in jail.
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It was at this point my mind imagined these beautiful souls back thousands of years camped by a river and the mother warning this young boy not to go anywhere near the water as the big dreaming serpent would come and swallow him up, or the great snapping turtle would eat him or the ancient ancestor who got turned into a crocodile for killing his father who seeks out little boys just like him to feed his grief.
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As my imagination called into memory many aboriginal creation stories I was called back into the present moment, this 21st century hospital foyer as this mum had to call her young son back from his next attempt at beating the automatic doors before he or someone else would be injured.
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The young mum’s heart was filled with love for this little chap but she knew she had to get him to understand the danger he was putting himself into with either the door closing in on him or being bowled over by the endless passing patients coming and going from the hospital.
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It was at this point I could no longer concentrate on reading my book but needed to tune my attention fully into where this mum was going to go with this very difficult parenting situation she had found herself in.
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My heart went out to this mum trying to raise her child with thousands upon thousands of years of cultural ancestral training on how to keep her children safe around snakes and crocodiles or water ways or thick bushland that just closes in around a child and swallows them up to now living on the edge of this western culture for less than two hundred years and all these new dangers the children are being exposed to.
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The mum then spoke with an even firmer tone trying to educate this young child to stop what he was doing with even more fear based stories of big policemen coming and taking him away or being jailed for doing the wrong things.
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It was at this point my heart filled with sadness and dread that this little boy was being told by his loving mother that he would end up in jail; a self-fulfilling prophecy as no human being can ever live without doing something wrong plus the reality that the Aboriginal community has the greatest number of inhabitants per capita in the Australian prison systems left me very perplexed indeed.
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I found myself, days later still trying to figure out solutions to this perplexing issue. What tools did this mother need to turn this situation around? What steps could be put in place for this ancient and beautiful original Australian community to cease being incarcerated in such high numbers
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What started to reveal itself was profound indeed and the more I reflected and pondered on this issue I became aware of what a fundamental shift this mother and for that matter all mothers would need to move towards that it left me totally in awe of the truly profound moment in history we are all alive in to witness humanities evaluational maturing development.
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The huge fundamental shift mothers need to move away from is using “fear from harm” from an external source and a “fear of a human authoritative figure” to punish them when caught doing the wrong thing. This form of parenting has been with human beings from their own indigenous roots and been carried through all generations and all cultures for a very long time and is in urgent need to be changed. Even the way many cultures make “fear of God” an external human like form that will punish them for doing the wrong thing is no different to this aboriginal mum telling her young son to be fearful of the big nasty policeman that will put him in jail when he gets caught doing the wrong thing.
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After speaking with a dear friend about these observations she pointed out that the solution is to move away from a “fear of harm” to a “fear of separation.” After consulting with this friend I became aware that this is only the beginning of solving this issue and I am not going to be able to solve it on my own.
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Culture and a way of life are embedded into our everyday language. The way those loving words rolled off this aboriginal mums tongue shows she was authentic, loving and very believable. There is a very large amount of educating and retraining ahead if humanity is turn it’s self around and forge new pathways to parent these new advanced evolved children now being born in this 21st Century that can no longer be parented as our ancestors were thousands of years ago.
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Please share your ideas on what a “fear of separation” parenting may sound or look like for you.

N 8 B 168 C 3 E May 2, 2015 F May 1, 2015
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last day of celebrating,
time to leave the bank,
go in search of new frontiers,
pioneering into unknown realms,
seeking new potentials hidden within,
developing new capacities,
stimulate dormant powers,
to share with all of the family of man.

N 7 B 161 C 7 E May 1, 2015 F May 1, 2015
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the test have been many and they are not abating,
we crossed the bridge we would not be able to return on,
camped awhile on the river bank to collected our inner notion,
overdue now if not stepping up,
striving out into unknown territory,
bravely forging new pathways through unknown lands,
courage piled high and leaving old baggage behind,
trusting leaps of faith,
as the light of Ridvan shines the way

N 8 B 172 C 4 E Apr 30, 2015 F Apr 30, 2015
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from every level
from every place
from very age
from every class
from every time frame
from within
from without
from the invisible
from the seen
children youth adults elderly
we are all being called to let go and let God


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