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(I know I am a few days late but got there eventually)
#RIDVAN2018 DAY12
my gift to the world's children stage 2
each day for the 12 days of Ridvan I am going to upload where my "What the Children Taught me" has got to...

“Snakes and Ladders”-Resilience Guide


The next book I found on an airport bookshelf was “How the Body Knows Its Mind: The Surprising Power of the Physical Environment to Influence How You Think and Feel” by Sian Beilock.

There were many aspects of this book I found very well researched and a lot of confirmations but it was the overarching new knowledge around the science of the way the brain was working that inspired my creative soul.

Many years ago when I first learned about the main learning styles (Auditory, Visual, and Kinaesthetic) and the main functions of the right and left sides of the brain these areas of science where all very new and revolutionary.

After reading “How the Body Knows Its Mind” I realised that the science around the way the mind/brain was working was still revealing amazing new realities that I knew I needed to learn more about.

With everything I was able to offer the children, who were in crisis in front of me, I still had not found enough to allow them to fly freely. There had to be more than waiting for them to be in crises.

There had to be more than rocking up week after week where the children were only failing again and again and me stepping in to offer support and help them up and out of the negative pits they had fallen into over and over again that they were finding themselves in.

No; I was not going to be happy with that outcome as all I could offer the next generation.

Beautiful young souls struggling for one personal reason or another desperate for answers to questions they could not even understand to ask.

Children full of potentials being cut off at the knees unable to find ways out of predefined societal created hell holes many generations before them had fallen into and lived perpetual despair like a bleak and negative "Neverending Story".

No; there had to be more that could be found to help this generation to be free of traumas that were not of their makings, not in their control, not even in the control of their parents or even grandparents generations.

Falling short of me going and getting trained in many varied professions that the adult generation was using to free themselves of the negative results of what these children were trying to get free of before they got older I could see no answer but my heart knew out there there had to be an answer I simply had not found it yet.

There had to be ways the children could get rid of the trauma patterns that they themselves could learn and use whenever they needed and not be dependent on me or anyone else when they found themselves in a scary place or experience.

It was then that I stumbled across Peter Levine and all his 40 odd years working with and around trauma that I finally found what I was looking for.

Finally I could see what was missing and all I then needed to do again was figure out how to simplify his science down into child size bites and the cards with the “Snakes and Ladders” concepts were created working alongside those beautiful and truly amazing young children I have been so very blessed to serve over the past 8 years.

That was the easy part.

Now I have to find ways to let the adult population know “What the Children Taught me"; not for my benefit but for the benefit of every child who is not growing up in a safe and secure world.

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(I know I am a few days late but got there eventually)
#RIDVAN2018 DAY11
my gift to the world's children stage 2
each day for the 12 days of Ridvan I am going to upload where my "What the Children Taught me" has got to...

“Snakes and Ladders”-Resilience Guide

When working with the children they would often be intensifying about something that happened to them in the past or dreading something in the future and time and time again I would repeat the same words...
“please stop focusing on the past or future but focus on the now, right here right now and lets workout what we can do now, not back there or into a future we haven’t go to yet.”

Every time I visited the airport I would go and have a good look in the bookshops to see what latest self-development books had been recently published. I had often found books with really great cutting edge ideas on those book shelves.

On one of my many trips over to the east coast of Australia to visit my daughters I found the perfect book; “The Power of NOW” by Eckhart Tolle on one of those airport bookshelves.

What I read in the first half of that book was profound on many levels for me and all the adult population but how was I going to translate those concepts into child bite pieces?

AHHHH the power of asking a question.

Just by asking that question was enough and over the months to come the way to reduce and simplify those main concepts gleaned from the book The Power of Now slowly emerged into child size bits.

Getting the children to close their eyes to go into their inside world and ask their own brain what it wanted to think about as they watched it was easy. Every child loved the process and when they were asked to come back into the outside world and share what their brain wanted to think about they all would share happily.

After the children had opened their eyes and returned to the outside world I would then ask them “Who are you; the thinking brain or the watcher brain? I could see each child stop and think deeply before answering me.

Most of the time the children would reply that they were the “thinking brain” and I would then explain that they were actually the “watcher brain”.

That was easy, very easy but then I had to come up with a metaphor, some form of symbol the child’s brain could grasp onto to understand why and what this all meant for them as a child.

What grew out of that fertile creative moment was the need to explain to the child that the “thinking brain” was like a beautiful horse and the “watcher brain” was a smart and very wise rider.

Now the children could follow where ever their imaginations could take this story, this metaphor. The power of storytelling won out again and all I had to do from now on was follow where each child wanted to go with the story line/metaphor and how they could apply it in their daily lives.

Asking each child to first describe what kind of horse they were and getting them to personalise their own horse “thinking brain” as something beautiful and magical and then asking them what would happen if I brought a horse into the library or classroom?

A horse running free in their school or their own house would cause chaos in one way or another and that’s what their “thinking brain” without a rider was doing when they were fighting or having a rage attack or swearing.

The children now could make sense of why they behaved the way they were without being shamed, blamed, made to feel hopelessness and could own their own actions without fear.

As each individual child was grasping their “thinking brain” horse reality I could then gently describe the role of their rider “watcher brain”.

The “watcher brains” roles and what each unique individual child’s rider brain needed to learn to be able to develop and embrace their own higher potentials could be slowly shared over the weeks to come every time their horse would be running free and causing chaos.

Their own unique inner nobility could finally find a way to start to shine and strengthen.

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#RIDVAN2018 DAY10
my gift to the world's children stage 2
each day for the 12 days of Ridvan I am going to upload where my "What the Children Taught me" has got to...

“Snakes and Ladders”-Resilience Guide

There are other strategies that will also be needed to learn to continue the development of these new inner skills forming more resilient habits.

The “Snakes and Ladders” game cards and these concepts form only one part of a larger program to support children in this process of inner Resilience development.

Playing suggestions…
Follow the normal instructions in your “Snakes and Ladders” game but when a player slides down a snake they pick a SNAKE card and choose a LADDER card when the player goes up a ladder then follow the instructions written on the back of the card.

The other change to playing this card game “Snakes and Ladders” is not to focus on who gets to the top first but what is to be learned on the journey and each other to succussed.

- For further updates and developments in the process of building inner Resilience or
- Questions or feedback from using these cards or.
- Ordering “Snakes and Ladders” card set
$10.00 (22 cards) business card size
- Booking workshops, training sessions
- Email tturnerdesigns@iinet.net.au
- For further information watch the videos;
“What the Children taught me. 1”
“What the Children taught me. 2”

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#RIDVAN2018 DAY9
my gift to the world's children stage 2
each day for the 12 days of Ridvan I am going to upload where my "What the Children Taught me" has got to...

“Snakes and Ladders”-Resilience Guide
by Terri Turner

To read more about the need to put the biological aspect back into healing at all levels of trauma please get yourself a copy of either ‘Trauma Through a Child’s Eyes’ or ‘Trauma-Proofing your Kids’ both written by Peter A. Levine and Maggie Kline.

As soon as you have asked a question; any question will do e.g.; How did I get here? Who can I ask help from? What can I do now? Where can I go for help? Asking questions will get you out of the instinct brain which can only respond by fighting, yelling, screaming, running away, freezing, dissociation or passive aggression.

Whatever your instinct brain uses in its belief it is attempting to protect you is now only causing to place you and all around you into very dangerous situations.
When you find yourself back in the thinking brain you need to feel any leftover bad feelings and literally shake them off.
Feelings of joy will slowly fill your body as you shake of the bad feelings.

Keep repeating the, 1x ASK QUESTIONS & 2x SHAKE OFF BAD FEELINGS. Practising these new ways of dealing with stress and fear will continue to create the new pathways needed within the human brain.


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